你才是自己最好的知己

【太陽報專訊】有時候，你的心情會無緣無故沉下來，像感冒，毫無先兆就中招了。

霉運似乎有骨牌效應。昨夜睡不好，你睜開眼睛，看不見艷陽天，只見漫天陰霾。匆匆出門，走了一班車，結果遲到，在會議上頻頻打呵欠。這天，客戶特別難纏，上司特別挑剔，下屬特別難管。

下班後，你匆匆跑進名店，把新衣穿上身，心情平復一點。信用卡在手，你不刷白不刷，捧着數袋戰利品離開。打開家門，你彷彿回到灰姑娘的老家，剎那間，商場的美妙音樂、漂亮的裝潢都消失了。打開購物袋，幾件新衣裳都失去原有的光彩。

無名的落寞再度向你施襲。坐在梳化上，定了神，你才意識到，自己一直在擔心未來：不懂得投資理財之道，何以安度晚年；一個人住多年，似乎要孤獨終老；工作如雞肋，不做是失業，做下去是重複……

少年時代，你會打電話向朋友訴苦。踏足社會之後，你知道，同事只算是公事朋友，除了唱K吃飯打保齡，不宜透露太多內心世界。學生時代的老友已經各有家庭，比Desperate Housewife更忙，你不敢浪費他們時間聽你無病呻吟。

為甚麼無病呻吟是年輕人的專利？成人煩惱更多啊！可恨人人都說，成年人要理智、要自強。明明內心脆弱的你，只好在人前裝堅強。鬧情緒似是罪加一等，令你更加討厭自己。

你跑進浴室，洗個臉。望着鏡子，你發現，此刻四周無人，看不見那些嘲笑的臉孔。你爬到床上，放任地哭了，把心裏的壓力釋放出來。

明天仍要一個人面對全世界，但你領悟到，你才是自己最好的知己。

Exercises Day......#1

Java Mini seems not really mini to me.

I find a relatively comfortable way of doing exercises. I know I'm too lazy......

友情緊扣

友情緊扣 (copy from yahoo)

朋友，有些是點頭之交，有些是酒肉朋友，有些是知己患難，層次有別，在大家心裡都有不同的位置。在這個世界，寧可多一個朋友少一個敵人，但你知道，真正可以和你不計麻煩傾訴心事的，其實人生只得一位她或他也足以無憾。

我們於人生中不斷結識新朋友，在不同的階段會遇上跟你要好的朋友，曾經共勉，曾經胡鬧說笑，曾經分享難忘的片段。

還記得多年前在紀念冊上，那些稚氣筆跡寫上的友誼永固嗎? 有一天，女生心血來潮，想找回多年沒有聯絡，但學生時代如同糖黐豆的好友，於是在facebook上尋人，結果真的找到了她。

女生相約了好友一聚，她們興高采烈重遊兒時常去的地方，還有一起暢談校園舊事，難得的是，她們彼此成長了，而且各有發展，卻仍能感受到多年前的純真情誼。雖然她們現在並非時常見面，但當這位好友得知女生遇上不如意的事時，卻會傳來一個衷心真誠的e-mail去鼓勵安慰她，女生頃刻就接收到無比的溫暖。那句友誼永固或許在紙上漸褪色，但真正的友情連繫並沒有因時間而淡化。

當我們每天忙於工作，就發覺跟朋友的距離愈來愈遠，平日少有通個電話，也難以遷就到大家同時有空吃個飯，一別就大半年才再見面。
自從男生當上記者之後，由於工作時間不定時，日夜生活又顛倒，幾乎跟朋友都斷絕了正常的交往。但是朋友們一聽到他的報導，總會留心細聽，在這個電波輸送的時空之間，出於對友人的關心，還是無形地連繫著大家。

有一次，男生要到危機處處的災區採訪，臨行前他致電給好朋友，大家在替他擔心的同時，也莫名的感動。因為在這個重要的時刻，至少可為他獻上一句「加油、萬事小心」，在心裡無限支持他。

朋友之間或者有著物理上的距離，但心的距離，卻從來都很貼近，打破了時間與空間的隔閡。

真摰的友情都是經得起時間與地域的限制的，一但朋友間建立了共通的默契，即使分隔多久、多遠，他們之間的連結都不會斷開 . . . . . .
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對於這...大多數, 我都能用心感受得到, 但...卻常常有猜錯的感覺......

Chocolate Lover......#1

I have already ate too much today, but chocolate is needed tonight.

I found the last piece of Belgium Chocolate at home.

You see? There is an elephant inside. It's elephant, not a little mice or ant.

Thanks!!!

My Life in a Day of......#4

A place that looks familiar? However, you may not know how to reach there.

This house is cool as orange is a lively and cheerful color.

My kitchen......lesson#1

Cream Brulee - making of

After mixed and baked

Sugar added

To make the caramel layer

Done

Keeping Your Brain Healthy: Brain-FX

By Dr. Patsi Krakoff -

Smile, and Your Whole Body Smiles

I read this great post over on Robert I. Sutton's blog, describing the research behind the smile-get happy-smile some more processes. Most people think they smile in reaction to a happy feeling; but research shows that you can bring on a happy feeling by just smiling.

At this time of year, why not just smile then? Heck, at any time or place: smile your face off and see what happens. To understand the brain mechanisms, visit Sutton's blog, he's researched and written about Zajonc and others who have studied this and it is worth the read.

Negative People Are Bad for Your Brain

I read a great post over on Kathy Sierra's Passionate Users blog April 17, about how negative people are bad for your brain. It's worth the read.

An interesting section in the post cites research about "mirror neurons." Evidently the old saying "monkey see, monkey do" has scientific relevance. We learn from seeing other people, then copying them. As a survival tool, this served us well, back in the day.

It does not serve us well when we are around angry, negative people. Sometimes our brains pick up on things best left not repeated or mirrored. This resonates with the research in organizations that shows emotions are contagious, and the mood of the leader permeates the culture of the group.

When's the last time you became aware, as your mood was changing, that you might have picked up some 'bad vibes' in your environment?

Well, sometimes we generate our own bad moods ourselves, and the only negative person around is...ourself! Just remember, you can spread positivity just as easily as negativity, and it's a lot more fun.

 
More at http://www.brain-fx.com/70_brain_emotions/